A question for MEN but women can get in on this too!!!

Can someone help me understand a man like this please!

Ok say you have a man, and I'm going to call him Perry and a girl, her name will be Danielle. These two people are in a relationship. Ok so Danielle is outgoing, she's from a large city, she has goals and is not a homebody. Perry is from a large city, used to be outgoing, never really had any goals, and has turned into a true homebody.

Ok so Danielle gets out of the house often. She is going to school, she is helping family, she gets up and takes care of her business. The only thing is , Danielle does not necessarily come straight home. She may be out and think hmmmm since I'm out, I need to get this done, so let me take care of it before i forget. Meanwhile Perry is at home getting pissed because she has now been gone for three hours. Ok but Danielle has offered him to come along and as usual he refused. Anyway, she makes it home 4 hours later. Has finished everything she wanted to get done and now she is home. Walks in the door and says hi to Perry. Perry is not speaking to her, he is furious because she has been gone for awhile. He has not bothered to ask her what she has been doing, he just automatically gets mad because she's been gone.

Ok what I want to know is: Why isn't this called nagging to some sort of degree? Like wth? Why does a woman almost 30yrs, not married, have to deal with this everyday? Why is he acting as if she have a curfew? Get gets pissed about this everyday. Meanwhile she is a neat freak and because he know this, it seems as though he won't clean behind himself. If she say anything to him, calmly, or conversational wise, this is called nagging. WTF? I don't understand this. Can someone answer this question for me. Perry :Why didn't you call?.......ummm because when I offered to buy you a phone for christmas, you didn't want one. So was you going to draw a phone and answer it when I call? Danielle: Why don't you want to go, so you can see getting mad is stupid? Oh because i don't like going anywhere anymore. Oh but you go to the store to pick up cigars. You'll go for that. I could never understand this.
So can someone help me with this?